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Welcome to my blog: Perils and Pearls
My heart's desire in this endeavor is to offer support and encouragement to the hearts' of women. That you would feel accompanied - not alone - as we travel together and find the jewels in our sometimes perilous journeys.


The Invasion From Glory
In these days before the celebration of Christ’s birth, I wanted to share a gift with you. I have recently found myself drawn to the writings of a minister and author whose unassuming humility and graciousness belie the depth of his scholarship and insight. Michael Sprague’s LinkedIn posts are consistently thoughtful, edifying and bring a new perspective to a scripture or topic that may not be new, or possibly even so familiar as to seem cliché in meaning. Here, with his per
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Dec 17, 20254 min read


Part 5: Breaking the Loop—12 Strategies to Shift Fear-Based Patterns
You can change your relationship with your thoughts This is my final writing in a series of posts re: fear loops. Together, these 5 short pieces build a cohesive journey: Recognizing the loop → Understanding your biology → Clarifying the emotions → Reframing your thoughts → Practicing strategies This last post will get to the strategies, that when practiced, can guide you from stepping out of the fear loop to nurturing resilience and reframing the pain into purpose. (*Go h
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Dec 1, 20256 min read


Part 4: Escaping the Happiness Trap—Shifting Thought Patterns
You can change your relationship w/ thoughts This is Part 4 of a series on thought loops that can be formed from fear, worry and anxiety - how we can get trapped in them and how to break free from them. (If you want to read the first three in this blog series go here .) In the previous post (Part 3), I covered the distinctions between the three distress emotions - fear, worry, and anxiety - how each contributes to a fear loop. I also defined ‘feedback loops’ and differentiate
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Nov 11, 20255 min read


Part 3: Fear, Worry, Anxiety and Stress—Untangling the Distress Web
This spooky web can be sticky to get out of! I have been sharing my exploration into fear - its webs and loops, and generally speaking, its power to throw our emotions into dysregulation and our body systems out of the homeostasis for which we were made. My first two posts on the topic can be found here , if you would like to read them. I used the personal story of our family handling the acute crisis of my husband resigning suddenly, to introduce the idea of fear loops as we
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Oct 23, 20255 min read


Part 2:Restoring Balance—How Our Bodies Seek Homeostasis
You were built for balance In my last post, I started a series on the topic of fear loops: How life brings situations that can set us up...
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Oct 10, 20254 min read


Part 1: The Fear Loop — When Life Hijacks Your Calm
It was the 1990s on a typical weekday, with the usual sounds – me clanking kitchenware as I prepared dinner, and our two kids in their...
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Oct 1, 20254 min read


Real World Resilience: Cowboys Kicker Brandon Aubrey
A Story of Hard Work, Perseverance & Resilience I just finished a series of posts on the topic of resilience. ( Click here if you would...
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Sep 17, 20255 min read


Part 5: Bend Not Break – A Resilience Practice for Everyday Life
Building a Life That Bends, Not Breaks This is the final installment of considering the concept of resilience. ( Go here if you would...
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Aug 29, 20254 min read


Part 4: Pancakes in a Snowstorm – How Creativity Can Emerge from Crisis
A Story of Improvisation Let's take a look at another aspect of resilience. (The topic I have been exploring in the last several blog...
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Aug 14, 20254 min read


Part 3: Resilience Is Risky Business – The Role of Personality and Risk
What Type of Thinker Are You? This is my third post on the topic of resilience.(Go here if you want to read Part 2.) We have established...
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Aug 6, 20253 min read


Part 2: The Complexity of Resilience – More Than Just Mental Toughness
Resilience Is a Full-Body Experience Picking up the topic from my last post... (Go here if you want to read part 1) Resilience can be...
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Jul 3, 20254 min read


The Art of Resilience: From Cracks to Courage Part 1: The Beauty in Brokenness – Introducing the Kintsugi Way
Finding Strength Through Our Cracks I recently wrote an article for the American Institute of Stress (AIS) e-magazine, Contentment, on...
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Jun 24, 20253 min read


Spanish Seasonings of a New Life Season
Can a dozen different orders of patatas bravas change your life? For sure the quest for the best has got me pondering the deep...
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Jun 3, 20257 min read


Making Room for Growth & New Life
Advent means an arrival or coming For this Christmas post, I just wanted to throw out something I have been pondering during this 2024...
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Dec 24, 20243 min read


The Thrill of Adventure: Dirt, Water, and Scrapes Included!
The setting: Our (then) eight-year-old granddaughter and eleven-year-old grandson were visiting in July a few years ago. Our daughter and...
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Nov 14, 20247 min read


Is Pain Amnesia a Thing?...I Forget
Many years ago, when a close friend stopped all contact with me for over a year (14 months, to be exact), I was in great pain. I could...
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Sep 9, 20245 min read


Scrabble as Therapy
May I do something a little different, and throw out a question at the begin of a post? Will you consider pondering this with me today?...
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Jul 11, 20245 min read


Empathy's Darker Side: Emotional Monitoring
I sense my title may be evoking various versions of curiosity: What is emotional monitoring? How could empathy ever be bad or dark? I had...
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Jun 20, 20245 min read


Coach Reid’s Range: The Tale of 2 KC Stars
For most Americans (and the world, for that matter), this captured image is old news by now; but the leadership lesson modeled by Coach...
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Feb 16, 20245 min read


The Power of an Arrow: Embracing Heart Change Without Cupid
We are into February (already!), probably reassessing the resolutions we made a month ago, and headed towards Valentine’s Day. So, I am...
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Feb 8, 20244 min read
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