Embodiment: When Alignment Becomes a Way of Life
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Have you ever met someone whose peace, humility, generosity, or wisdom seemed effortless? And yet, upon observing their life, you realize they have no lack of challenges or crises. Their admirable qualities seem to shine through the sorrow of life because those characteristics have become part of who they were.
That is the goal of transformation:
To not simply change what we do - how we think or act or react - but to peel back the layers of old unhelpful patterns, woundings and mistaken thinking, and reveal the glory of who we were created to be, uniquely imbued by our Creator to reflect a part of His nature.
Embodiment, the final stage in the transformation process, is what it looks like to become fully alive—the kind of life that reflects God's glory because it is increasingly aligned with His design.
But before we get curious about the notion of embodiment, let’s do a quick review on the other stages of the change process as discussed in my series on Turning Tricky Transitions into Transformation (Go here to read the other parts in this series.)
Here’s that Transformation Model again:
Stage 1: Transformation always begins with awareness.
God gets our attention regarding a specific work He is desiring to do in us. We recognize there is a pattern in play that is unhelpful, or perhaps even destructive. Essentially, we respond to God’s invitation by stepping onto the arrow and beginning the transformation process - from old man to new man: “Yes, I am ready for a new way, a truer way.”
Stage 2: Release
We begin letting go of...
Old identities. Old fears.
Old coping mechanisms.
Old beliefs that no longer serve us.
...but not before being inundated with the pervasiveness of the particular pattern at issue. Everywhere we look, we see ourselves doing, thinking, reacting in this same unhelpful way: “It’s everywhere!” becomes the refrain in our minds.
Being bowled over with the prevalence of this behavior is necessary for us to firmly commitment to the change process that will not be painless or quick.
Stage 3: Transformation
God begins reshaping us from the inside out as we find ourselves at the point of no return - that is, there is no turning back for us, our former way is no longer acceptable to us. Forward is the only way through now.
This is often the hardest stage because change happens beneath the surface before anyone else can see it. But we are feeling the shift. We may even have our first self-recognition: “Wow, I just had a different response to that same old trigger!”
Stage 4: Alignment
We begin intentionally living according to our new identity. Our choices increasingly reflect what God has been teaching us. Our decisions regarding the allocation of our resources embody our new way of thinking and acting.
And this is stage where others who know us well start to express the change they see.
But be forewarned: When we change, it can push those around us out of their comfort zone - block them from the payoff they grew used to getting from our former way.
So, their initial response to our new behavior may not be excitement. But by this point, we are determined to stay the course, because we have tasted the goodness, experienced the freedom of peeling off a layer of grave clothes that had been holding us down for so long.
Stage 5: Embodiment
But alignment is not the finish line; integration is the goal. As our batting average starts to go up, relative to our new response to well-worn situations that used to trigger us, what was new and awkward becomes more habitual and natural. It is our new norm.
Who we have become on the inside is showing up on the outside. Our lives begin reflecting who God created us to be.
Embodiment By His Spirit Alone
Embodiment is when our character becomes increasingly stable regardless of circumstances. And that's going to require more than willpower.
Real transformation cannot happen without God at work in us. That would just be self-improvement, and it is not sustainable through the struggles, trials and pain life inevitably brings. We need His ‘Super’ to meet us at the limit of our ‘natural.’
On our own, we are just not that good. (Romans 7:18) But He is faithful to accompany and empower us as we travel across the arrow, from old to new, from false to true. Moreover, God is glorified as we more clearly reflect His image in our lives and relationships.
As Dallas Willard often emphasized, the goal is not merely to behave like Christ but to become the kind of person who naturally lives as He did.
Embodiment happens as we repeatedly notice, release, soften, and reorient until what once required intentional effort gradually becomes our natural way of being.
His heart towards us is always healing and wholeness. And with every trip across the transformation arrow, He accompanies us and empowers us as He forms us a little more into the likeness of Christ.
The Model Never Really Ends
An important truth worth repeating: The journey of transformation is not a one-and-done process. Each time you embody a new way of thinking or acting - if you continue to practice a receptive posture - you will then find yourself back at the left side of the arrow, noticing a different unhelpful pattern on which God shines His light. And so it begins again...
Wrapping Up the Series
Every transition presents us with a choice: We can resist it. We can merely survive it. Or we can allow God to use it to transform us.
When our daily choices consistently align with His truth, those choices eventually become our character. And that's what embodiment is: A life increasingly marked by the presence, peace, and character of Christ.
I hope this series on Turning Tricky Transitions into Transformation has been helpful and encouraging. Next, I'll delve into a topic that has captivated me in recent years: The extraordinary convergence of neuroscience and scripture, where modern science is increasingly discovering what God has declared all along.
Bring your curiosity and join me as we explore how the God who designed us also designed the process by which we are changed: The renewing of our minds.
Meanwhile, might you consider...
As you reflect on your own life, where have you begun to notice that what once required intentional effort is becoming a more natural expression of who you are?
Looking back over the five stages of the Transformation Model—Awareness, Release, Transformation, Alignment, and Embodiment—which stage best describes where you find yourself today, and why?
What transition, challenge, or recurring pattern might God be inviting you to see as your next opportunity for transformation rather than simply something to endure?
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